Why I Don’t Want to Be Like My Mother

I don’t want to make the same mistakes

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I Don’t Want to Work For 30 Years in The Same Job Until I Retire

Watching my mother wake up every day exhausted and run down to head to work in all types of weather, wind, rain, snow, and hail to put food on the table was painful. I even started a business when I was 13 because I wanted to ease the burden and contribute to the household financially. Watching my mother work so hard every day made me realize that I don’t want to live like that. I knew very early on that I wanted to do things differently.

I Don’t Want to Stay in a Marriage For The Sake of The Kids

Growing up, staying in a marriage for the sake of the kids was the norm. Most of my friend's parents got divorced when the kids left home and moved into their own homes. Staying in a marriage when it is clearly over just for the sake of the children is not my idea of a life. I can understand the motive though, healthy, happy children are born out of a healthy, happy, two-parent home. The thing is, children can sense fake love, they can detect when things are not quite right.

I Don’t Want to Marry Someone Who is Not Financially Stable

My father has never been financially stable, I watched my mother pay for things that really my father should have been taking care of. She worked long hours, even worked on weekends to keep a roof over our heads. I certainly don’t want to be in a marriage where my husband is not financially stable. The thing is, people go through tumultuous times, when finances are not completely up to par however, at some point, that has to change. I want my man to step up to the plate and handle his business.

I Don’t Want to Marry Someone With Different Values

Marrying someone with different values is a big no-no for me. What do you teach the kids? How do we provide the kids with a solid value system if we don’t see eye to eye in that area? Nah! I need a man with similar morals and values otherwise it can’t happen! My parents had completely different value systems and belief systems. We grew up confused, and in the past three to four years, I have had to work through a whole lot of issues because of the confusion and conflict that I grew up in.

I write about Health, Wealth, Race and other things. Founder Pink Intrigue + Freshlight Media. I give away my earnings to change lives in Ghana

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